226 | Basking in Afterglow: Lilly Sparks’ Sex Stories

Lilly (30s monogamous white cis het f) went on a journey to learn to orgasm, and her larger pursuit of pleasure eventually led her to produce porn—she’s the founder and CEO of Afterglow*, an ethical porn company whose mission is to empower and educate in the name of delicious connection. Lilly shares her backstory: a conservative upbringing, a high school sweetheart she was with from ages 15 to 30, her first orgasm at 24, and her second wave of sexual exploration after shirking a lot of shoulds which her to be the change she wanted to see in the adult film industry. She shares her favorite parts of sex (hint: she named her company after it), her satisfaction in monogamy and belief that everyone’s at least a little queerious, her own control and collaboration preferences, the liberator sex couch she aspires to use more often, the Lelo vibrator she first loved and still uses to this day, and what it’s like to actually produce porn after a background in the startup world. She and Wyoh talk being single for the first time again in your 30’s, encountering penises of all sizes, wanting to like porn, exploring her own sexuality with erotic video, and wanting to make something hot that speaks to people like her—so she did, even though she had no idea how to produce a film much less a porno when she started. She shares her definition of ethical porn, how Afterglow has shifted her relationship to the industry, how awesome the performers are, the importance of lube, and the guided audio exercise that you do with your partner around cunnilingus on Afterglow—sign up at xoafterglow.com/lover