Talking about type 9s: the spiritual sloth and the pretend relaxer They're the best sleepers and creative graphic designers? If you're a 9, tell your friend you don't want to play their stupid board game  Marissa's mad at Obama Instinct variants and stackings are wild The bare necessities Want to feel your emotions intensely? Find you a Tara and watch them cry      

Enneathing You Want (Type 9s) - Episode 9

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*General instinct knowledge @ 16 min *Self-pres 3 starts @ 26 min In this episode, we talk about the self-pres 3 (aka "Vanity No Vanity") and explore how they deny their passion of vanity (in a fixated state of mind). In our typical style, we kick the episode off with a personal catch-up and some banter.   We apologize ahead of time for the audio situation.  In the intro, we talk about what we’ve been up to Review and refresher of all the instincts and levels of health in the instincts SP 3s can look like 1s Tara talks about her personal experiences with SP3 Compare the sexual/social/SP instinct’s relationship to vanity SP3 motivations and fixations Enneagram 3 anxiety and how it shows up from their over-identification with roles Celebrity examples of 3s - mostly of the reality trash TV variety Ideas for being less fixated  Resources we used and may have mentioned for this episode: EnneagramMonthly.com, Beatrice Chestnut - The Complete Enneagram, Sandra Maitri - The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-discovery, A variety of books on the Enneagram by Russ Hudson, Oscar Ichazo 

Self Preservation 3 - Episode 52

THE PODCAST IS BACK. Thank you so much for your patience with our break.  Intro: Music by RujayInstrumental: "Next Level" by SeriouzBeatsChannel: https://YouTube.com/user/RujayTV Here’s what we talked about in today’s return episode:  Thank you for supporting us on Patreon while we were away, it helped us cover our online subscriptions and keep the podcast online We are going through all of your emails, please keep sending more, we want to connect in these weird pandemic times Life update: Tara had a baby and she can’t type him, she got married and moved in with her husband (1w2 sx), moved twice after discovering cockroaches, got scammed and had a period of postpartum depression Life update: Marissa got hit by a car and tore her ACL, got kicked out of her apartment by her landlord, moved back home, went through a miscarriage, was put in a new position at work,  Discussion about Chris Heuertz and a blog post that was written by 33 women and men who shared their stories of experiencing and witnessing abuse by him (Starts around 39-minute mark). *See our website for links to everything - enneagramforidiots.com We talk about:   How we found out about this How we know Chris (Correction: Chris didn’t say that the IEA almost didn’t pay him, he said, as confirmed by email, “They really under paid me for the keynote and none of the 40+ workshop presenters got paid for their breakout sessions.”) The details of the blog post outlining how Chris has harmed many people (53 minutes in) Chris’s response and our issues with it Gravity Centre’s investigation and summary of findings and its conflicts of interest Our thoughts about all of this    Correction: in this episode, we often say 33 women and men came forward saying they were abused by Chris. The blog post says that the 33 women and men were both abused and witnessed abuse.

We're Back + Chris Hurts - Episode 48

Intro/Outro:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0pVXEBA3PU&list;=RD--YiHE-06Rw&index;=22 (pilgrim) Today we’re talking about Self-Preservation dominant 8s aka NOT Marissa but Donald Trump. Also known by Enneagram resources as the "Survivalist". In this episode we cover:   How Marissa isn’t self-preservation dominant and Tara’s mind is blown, then we explore how the social (Maris) and sexual (Tara) instincts show up in our lives   What a self-preservation dominant 8 may look like and behave   How this type may be more angry and confrontational than the other instinctual variants of the 8   Famous 8w7 examples (Donald Trump / Gene Simmons) and famous 8w9 examples (Liam Neeson / Morgan Freeman / Susan Sarandon)   What it may be like to work with a self-pres 8   How self-pres 8s might challenge people to be equals more than the other instinctual variants of the 8   The unhealthy and average range of a self-pres dominant 8   Also sorry 5s, the audio got cut in the beginning so a portion of your recap from the previous episode just wasn’t meant to be covered. Love you. Questions   If you’re a self-pres 8 what is crying like for you? Or if you know a self-pres 8, do they cry often/rarely/ever? What’s that like?   Self-pres 8s: do you call in sick?   How does this instinctual variant soften themselves?   Resources: Self-reported people talking on Reddit,  Wisdom of the Enneagram, Some quotables from Beatrice Chestnut and Russ Hudson, Enneagram Institute message boards, Excerpts from Claudio Naranjo,  Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, our brains and lives

Self-Preservation 8 - Episode 46

Intro / Outro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVLBaNQjQro Today we’re starting a brand new series on the INSTINCTS. Ahhhhh this is going to be SO EXCITING. In this episode, we kick it off with an introduction the instincts. We cover:   what the instincts are (i.e. biological survival drives)   language around describing instincts (variants and drives vs. using the word ‘subtype’)   a breakdown of each instinct (self-preservation, sexual and social)   why sexual does not mean one-on-one relationships   what instinct stackings are or ‘sequences’   how being neurotic or ‘unhealthy’ shows up in instinct land   8s and mob bosses - is Tony Soprano a sexual 8?   Resources and additional learning: Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery (there’s a small section on instincts at the end), The Shift Network audio download on instincts with Russ Hudson, https://beatricechestnut.com/blog/

Introduction To The Instincts: A NEW Series - Episode 44

Intro/Outro: J Roes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfWAxIk4xDw Today we’re wrapping up our compatibility series with the holy trinity - types 3 + 6 and types 6 + 9. Skip to 9:55 minutes to start the episode. In this episode we talk about:   What it’s like to be with a 3, 6 and 9   We analyze a relationship thread on Reddit between a 6 + 9 that has gone from monogamous to polyamorous and are now sleeping in separate beds   A Redditor says he’s heard 9s are cheaters   Marissa shares intimacy tips from the internet   Vulnerability in 3, 4 and 8 relationships   Enneagram study on compatibility: https://www.9types.com/writeup/enneagram_relationships.php Resources for today’s episode: Helen Palmer’s The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships (most titles of our relationship series are based on Helen Palmer’s titles of the couplings), Enneagram Institute, REDDIT, Drdaviddaniels.com Enneagram conflict resolution styles: http://www.fitzel.ca/enneagram/conflict.html

Enneathing You Want (Type 9s) - Episode 9

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