63: Gratitude in the Hard Seasons, Part 1 with Christine Koh

As Thanksgiving is just around the corner, gratitude is an important topic. It is important to offer a more nuanced perspective, because gratitude can be complicated and can look very different for different people. Gratitude goes beyond the simple phrase, “Just be grateful.” In today’s Part 1 of two episodes, we want to give people a brave place to let their true feelings be what they are, regardless of others’ expectations. How do we practice gratitude in a way that isn’t toxic positivity but still validates our feelings and raises our quality of life? My friend, Christine Koh, is here to contribute to the discussion. She is a speaker, creative consultant, author of Minimalist Parenting, and the podcast co-host of Edit Your Life. Join us!

Show Highlights: 

●      How we define gratitude–it doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone!

●      How gratitude can be an embracing the joy that is random in life–just as suffering is

●      How we define toxic positivity–and how it relates to motherhood

●      Why we, as a society, aren’t very good at sitting with uncomfortable emotions and pain

●      How Christine’s background and Asian heritage inform her view of toxic positivity

●      How spiritual bypassing relates to toxic positivity in not allowing feelings to be processed and explored

●      Why Christine is a fan of cognitive reframing–and how she uses this practical exercise to “flip the script”

●      Why we have to give voice to our suffering to process the feelings and move toward growth

●      How gratitude is an emotional muscle that we have to flex in our own ways

●      Christine’s advice to parents about teaching gratitude while not pushing toxic positivity on our kids

●      Why it is important for parents to model a wide range of emotions in front of our kids

Resources and Links:

Connect with Christine Koh: Website, Podcast, and Minimalist Parenting book

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning

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